I Want Cookies, Mommy!!!

Written by Shenise Gatson

Such peace. Such tranquility. Such freedom.

It’s 6:30 am. The store aisles are empty. As I push a squeaky shopping cart along, I smile inwardly. There’s nothing like going to the store….BY MYSELF.

Am I the only one?

The only one who dreads taking their three-year old to the grocery store?

One Saturday morning I woke up bright and early at 6 a.m. While my husband and daughter were sleeping peacefully, I took a shower and put on my clothes. As I grabbed my purse and car keys, I tapped my husband on the shoulder. He opened sleepy eyes and mumbled, “Where are you going?”

“Hey baby,” I told him excitedly. “I’m going to the store!”

He glanced at the clock, then gave me a strange look. “At six in the morning?!” My head bobbed, “Yes! See you later.” I happily sprinted to the car, thinking, “I’m free!!”

If you are a mommy like me, you love your child with all your heart. But, let’s be real. Sometimes we desire child-free time. Time away from the temper tantrums, endless “why” questions, falling out, and embarrassing store moments. Even just for a moment.

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Have You Asked?

Written by Shenise Gatson

Have you ever met a person who only talks about themselves 24/7?

Or only focuses on what’s happening in their own world?

And they never stop to ponder the idea that someone else is going through struggles, obstacles, or hardships as well. While you are sitting there listening to them talk, your brain is wondering, “Wow, we’ve been talking all this time, and they haven’t even asked how I am doing or how my day was. Does this person even care what’s happening in my life?”

The relationship or friendship starts to feel a little one-sided, right?

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I am sure we all have met someone like this at some point. In fact, I have been this person at various times in my life! Most people love to talk about what is going on in their world. Of course, there is nothing wrong with that…in moderation.

We all have moments where we need to vent or get things off our chest. It is definitely okay to do this, but we have to make sure our relationships are balanced. Sometimes that means showing a caring and empathetic ear to others just like we expect them to do the same for us.

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Scrolling and Sweeping

Written by Shenise Gatson

Okay, I have to vent about something. This is a safe space for me to vent, right? Don’t get me wrong. I know it’s common nature. Where does it come from? Help me understand, Lord! I’m joking about this, but I’m not…LOL!

Where does it stop?

You probably wonder what I am talking about.

I am talking about scrolling and sweeping.

What is that, you ask?

It’s when someone posts something on their social media page and our hands scroll down the page, we pause, look, and we keep sweeping past, never glancing back. Like we never saw it in the first place. Or, in other words, we saw it, but we didn’t. LOL! What is that?

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Smiling at Angels

Written by Shenise Gatson

My two-old daughter smiles at angels.

She is my angel too. My earthly angel.

As we watched television together one evening, my daughter pointed into the air, towards the ceiling. “Look, mommy,” she said.

“What do you see, sweetheart?” I asked absentmindedly.

“Look, mommy,” she repeated. “Angel.”

I paused, heart pounding, “Where is the angel?”

Her beautiful dark brown eyes connected with mine, “Right there.”

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5 Signs of a Controlling Person: Secure or S.T.U.C.K?

Written by Shenise Gatson

A man grabs his phone and logs into his facebook account. A light bulb goes off in his mind. He shakes his head, realizing that his wife has been controlling both his and her account.

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A woman is digging through boxes in her closet. She is spring cleaning. As she moves a box, a picture falls to the floor. She realizes that it is an old family photograph. She cannot remember the last time she has seen her own family. Her boyfriend gets angry anytime she mentions going to spend time with anyone other than him.

In the middle of a heated argument with her husband, a wife retreats to another room in the house to escape his anger. She is tired of fighting. She decides to call a friend just to vent. Her husband opens the door and snatches her cell phone away. “I pay the bills in this house! I paid for this cell phone! You’re not going to call anyone until I say it’s okay!”

When you are in love, it is easy to miss the signs.

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New Year’s Resolutions: Lay Low or Level Up?

Written by Shenise Gatson

We all have them. I know I definitely do.

A list of things I have been meaning to start, accomplish, or complete for the last year, but haven’t finished yet.

Books on my table that I haven’t gotten around to reading yet. To-do lists with only half of the items scratched off. Planners with written notes of all the things “I’m going to do”. Dreams and goals that I have left on the back burner to occupy my time with matters I thought were more pressing.

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Have you ever been there?

I am sure many of us have. Deep within us, we each have a desire to reach a goal, to accomplish a dream, to improve a certain area of our lives.Maybe your dream is:

  • To be an entrepreneur and start your own business
  • To enroll in school and start/finish your degree
  • To began a lifestyle change and pursue weight loss and healthy eating
  • To let go of some toxic people in your life
  • To find a church home and grow spiritually
  • To prepare yourself for a new romantic relationship
  • To repair a broken family relationship
  • To use your spiritual gift for a church ministry
  • To get on track financially
  • To pursue a trade school
  • To research a career change
  • To start a family/have children
  • To buy a home
  • To write a book

Whatever your dream or goal is….why not start now?

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Menus and Maybes: This Holiday Season

Written by: Shenise Gatson

It's that time of year! 
It's that time of year.
It's that time of year

Can you hear it? 

How different these sentences sound when you place the emphasis on a different word?

In each phrase, the italicized word changes the tone of the sentence. Take a moment and consider these statements as if they were describing the holidays.

In the first phrase, excitement rings true.  I envision a person smiling happily as they plan their menus, guest lists and decorations. In sentence two, I hear the sound of a person who dreads what this season will bring.  In the last sentence, I envision a person reflecting on what a tumultuous year it has been. I can hear that person inwardly wondering, “Will the holidays bring more negativity to an already negative year?”

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For many, holidays are a time for fun, food, fellowship and festivities.

For some, it’s a time for celebrating with loved ones and dining on delicious dishes.

For others, holidays are just a reminder of all that is missing from life.

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This Smile Hurts

Written by Shenise Gatson

This smile hurts.

It hurts because my smile is not genuine today. It is forced. Fake.

As colleagues pass me in the hallways, I smile and wish them a good morning. Inwardly, tears are falling and I am praying with all my heart they do not notice. It is one of those days where I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders.

What do I do now? When will this feeling go away? When will things work out and stay “worked out”?

I have prayed. I have cried. I have lain in meditation, trying to bring comfort to my soul. To no avail.

Maybe you have been in my shoes. Maybe you have had a bad day at work, received some unsettling news, or had a conflict with someone that greatly affected you. Maybe you received a bad doctor’s report or encountered a financial setback. Whatever it is, many of us have been in this place. This place of sadness. Of discouragement. Sometimes desperation, even. You want the situation to get resolved immediately so you can return to happiness and contentment, but then you secretly wonder…..

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