Have You Asked?

Written by Shenise Gatson

Have you ever met a person who only talks about themselves 24/7?

Or only focuses on what’s happening in their own world?

And they never stop to ponder the idea that someone else is going through struggles, obstacles, or hardships as well. While you are sitting there listening to them talk, your brain is wondering, “Wow, we’ve been talking all this time, and they haven’t even asked how I am doing or how my day was. Does this person even care what’s happening in my life?”

The relationship or friendship starts to feel a little one-sided, right?

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I am sure we all have met someone like this at some point. In fact, I have been this person at various times in my life! Most people love to talk about what is going on in their world. Of course, there is nothing wrong with that…in moderation.

We all have moments where we need to vent or get things off our chest. It is definitely okay to do this, but we have to make sure our relationships are balanced. Sometimes that means showing a caring and empathetic ear to others just like we expect them to do the same for us.

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Scrolling and Sweeping

Written by Shenise Gatson

Okay, I have to vent about something. This is a safe space for me to vent, right? Don’t get me wrong. I know it’s common nature. Where does it come from? Help me understand, Lord! I’m joking about this, but I’m not…LOL!

Where does it stop?

You probably wonder what I am talking about.

I am talking about scrolling and sweeping.

What is that, you ask?

It’s when someone posts something on their social media page and our hands scroll down the page, we pause, look, and we keep sweeping past, never glancing back. Like we never saw it in the first place. Or, in other words, we saw it, but we didn’t. LOL! What is that?

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Smiling at Angels

Written by Shenise Gatson

My two-old daughter smiles at angels.

She is my angel too. My earthly angel.

As we watched television together one evening, my daughter pointed into the air, towards the ceiling. “Look, mommy,” she said.

“What do you see, sweetheart?” I asked absentmindedly.

“Look, mommy,” she repeated. “Angel.”

I paused, heart pounding, “Where is the angel?”

Her beautiful dark brown eyes connected with mine, “Right there.”

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New Year’s Resolutions: Lay Low or Level Up?

Written by Shenise Gatson

We all have them. I know I definitely do.

A list of things I have been meaning to start, accomplish, or complete for the last year, but haven’t finished yet.

Books on my table that I haven’t gotten around to reading yet. To-do lists with only half of the items scratched off. Planners with written notes of all the things “I’m going to do”. Dreams and goals that I have left on the back burner to occupy my time with matters I thought were more pressing.

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Have you ever been there?

I am sure many of us have. Deep within us, we each have a desire to reach a goal, to accomplish a dream, to improve a certain area of our lives.Maybe your dream is:

  • To be an entrepreneur and start your own business
  • To enroll in school and start/finish your degree
  • To began a lifestyle change and pursue weight loss and healthy eating
  • To let go of some toxic people in your life
  • To find a church home and grow spiritually
  • To prepare yourself for a new romantic relationship
  • To repair a broken family relationship
  • To use your spiritual gift for a church ministry
  • To get on track financially
  • To pursue a trade school
  • To research a career change
  • To start a family/have children
  • To buy a home
  • To write a book

Whatever your dream or goal is….why not start now?

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Menus and Maybes: This Holiday Season

Written by: Shenise Gatson

It's that time of year! 
It's that time of year.
It's that time of year

Can you hear it? 

How different these sentences sound when you place the emphasis on a different word?

In each phrase, the italicized word changes the tone of the sentence. Take a moment and consider these statements as if they were describing the holidays.

In the first phrase, excitement rings true.  I envision a person smiling happily as they plan their menus, guest lists and decorations. In sentence two, I hear the sound of a person who dreads what this season will bring.  In the last sentence, I envision a person reflecting on what a tumultuous year it has been. I can hear that person inwardly wondering, “Will the holidays bring more negativity to an already negative year?”

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For many, holidays are a time for fun, food, fellowship and festivities.

For some, it’s a time for celebrating with loved ones and dining on delicious dishes.

For others, holidays are just a reminder of all that is missing from life.

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What have you done for you lately?

Written by: Shenise Gatson

Have you ever felt like there are not enough hours in a day? Do you cringe at the thought of adding one more task to your to-do list? Do you feel like you are stumbling around trying to regain your balance?

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Believe me, you are not alone. Myself and many other women have felt the same way. Sometimes we wear so many hats and play so many roles that we feel burned out. We pour so much into others’ lives but forget to replenish ourselves. At times, we may feel like we have reached our limit. Whenever you feel yourself nearing that breaking point, it is important to remember three things.

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